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[needtotalkilllisten]

[needtotalkilllisten]

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[kindnessoverperfection]

Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)

[hinamie]

色彩 [Shikisai]

[needtotalkilllisten]

[needtotalkilllisten]

Not very, as it turns out... 🤔

“How a person reacts to your sadness says a lot about how long they’re going to be in your life.”

— S. Z.

[23z567]

I am haunted by you , even if your heart beats with mine

[starheirxero]

Also, on the end part of "Lunar breaks down" with Earth, I just have to say the posts I saw made that scene sound like she had looked Lunar dead in the eyes and went "I don't wanna help you" and walked away but like... She just accidentally overheard Lunar's breakdown and went "ah. fuck, i'll... let them cry it out first. i'll take a lap and come back."

Like that's? I feel like that's not even a bad or mean thing. If we're being real here, too, Lunar probably would have clammed up and tried to make themselves stop crying if Earth had walked in—which is arguably worse than crying it out for however long they needed to. There isn't anything she could have said to help either, this is evident in the fact there wasn't anything to say when Lunar properly came to the family about the matter the next day.

She didn't do a bad thing, she just... made a choice. Not even a notably bad choice. She just said "I can't help, I'll trust them to come to someone about that when they're ready." Like that's... that's fair. That's not even Earth having a flaw either she literally just chose to let Lunar have an alone moment like c'mon HDKSNDM

[damnbtway]

gavin in the first friendsgiving is such a fucking menace. he still is but this in of itself man the way he says laskos name this guy just wants to wreak havoc......

also side note the way damien just says "scoot i need behind you" to get by them while fl and gavin are making out in the middle of the kitchen is very polycule of them an (train runs me over)

[needtotalkilllisten]

Truth...

[slasherscream]

Jordan would call you: baby, babe, princess, mama

Things to call Jordan that make them melt: Jordie, tough girl/guy, lover boy/lover girl, tiger

[sleepyblr-heart]

this'll hurt you more than it'll hurt me

[mattpearson]

@pscentral​ event 26: minimalism

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[michameinmicha]

love my voice changing, very gender, very cool! but it absolutely sucks that i have to relearn how to sing along to all my favourite songs from scratch because now i cant hit my usual high notes anymore and i'm not used to singing low at all so it's very awkward! And it keeps changing too! can't wait for my voice to settle in somewhere so i can actually find the right range and keep it :/

[needtotalkilllisten]

[nebuvoid]

if theres one thing that instantly sours my mood, its an acquaintance sending me a 2 minute whatsapp voice message where they ramble, while mumbling, with the tv blaring in the background. and then i have to fight for my life trying to parse what they even want from me, answer, only to to get another voice message in reply. whoever came up with these voice messages fuck you fuck you fuck you i hate you